How to live your calling as a stay-at-home mom

Does being a stay-at-home mom count for much besides making sure your child’s physical needs are met? How are we called to be responsible for chores and home life, every.single.day? I hope this shed’s some light on how to live out your calling as a stay-at-home mom, with purpose.

I have a big heart for all the mama’s out there who struggle to find purpose in the every day monotony. You are not alone!

I used to work full-time, then part-time until eventually I decided to stay home. I didn’t want to miss out on my kids growing up! What I didn’t anticipate was falling into depression.

I was merely existing every day. I lost my motivation and I wasn’t growing in my faith. My husband and my kids were not getting the version of me that they deserved.

To this day I have to remind myself of my God given purpose in my home. Especially every time I see another full sink of dishes, thank you Jesus, I have mouths to feed!

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We never get to “punch out” on the time clock as a stay-at-home mom. We are “on-call” 24-7; we don’t get sick days or personal leave and even when we use vacation time, we’re still on-call. (Unless you’re rich, perhaps)

Being a stay-at-home mom is redundant. The repetition of cooking, cleaning and taking care of everyone else’s needs isn’t always super fun or rewarding.

Or can it be?

A wife and mother is the heart of the home.

God’s Word tells us everything we need to know pertaining to life and it includes that of a wife, mother and homemaker. God does not will for us stay-at-home mama’s to merely survive the day.

Learning the following scriptures re-shaped my perspective and applying them, changed my life. I’ve included the scripture and what it means to me.

The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1

I was not “building my house up”. I never meant to tear it down but ultimately through discontentment, lack of appreciation and resentment, it’s exactly what I was doing.

“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand. Matthew 12:25

My spouse and I are a team, we are not opposed to one another and even though we don’t always agree, we always have the same end goals in mind. So being mindful on how we face opposition is so important, little ones are observing. A house divided will fall.

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7

We are to teach our kids in the way we want them to grow and most importantly lead them by example.

Here is why it’s important to know the scriptures.

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29

Our words have the power to life someone up or tear them down.

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Matthew 12:34

The way I speak and treat my family is a direct reflection of the love, or lack thereof that’s in my heart.

And not just being hearers of the Word, but Doers of the Word. James 1:22

Actions speak louder than words.

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33

It’s crucial that my kids see their dad loving their mama and their mama respecting their dad.

A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can’t turn it off, and you can’t get away from it. Proverbs 27:15-16

I am my husband’s helper. I am here to love him for who he is, lift him up and encourage him. It’s not my job to change him. I want to be the crown upon his head.

A shift in perspective, changes everything.

“When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” Wayne Dyer

Us moms have a choice to make each day. Wake up and repeat in zombie mom mode OR cultivate a home that brings glory to God.

Mama, you have a calling that is higher than redundancy.

Higher calling

The responsibility of being a homemaker and caretaker comes from above. Our time in our home truly matters for eternity and quite frankly what is more important that what goes on between the walls of your home?

Our home should be a sanctuary, a place to find peace and rejuvenation. It’s where our kids will learn everything they need to know before they’re off on their own. It’s where my husband comes home from a long day at work to relax and enjoy his family. I now take pride in the functionality and atmosphere of my home.

Anger, frustration, anxiety and gossip ultimately sows discord throughout the minds of our kids and spouse. On the contrary, when we exhibit patience, love, joy, peace and kindness we are planting seeds of life. Read more about the fruit of the spirit here.

Being a successful homemaker doesn’t come from laziness, it’s achieved through a disciplined plan. We build our homes by diligently seeking God as He is the rock of our foundation.

What atmosphere are you creating as the heart of your home?

My goal is creating a home that is structured (not perfect, because life and kids). Focus on raising my kids up in the way that they should go and being wise with my time and resources. Always praying over my home, children and spouse.

This is God’s will for me and my purpose in my home is meaningful. The outcome is far worth every ounce of energy we put forth. We should take this position as seriously as any high paid job. I know there’s no paycheck at the end of the week that makes it feel worth it; but if our reward is in heaven, is that enough? Hopefully, we all have kids and spouses that acknowledge and praise us for all we do.

Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her. Proverbs 31:28

Build Your House on the Rock

“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.  And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” Matthew 7:24-27

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What are your tips for living your calling as a SAHM?